Archive for April, 2009

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The Simple Truth about Self Doubt

April 22, 2009

Doubt. Now that is one ugly word, especially during unpredictable times. Why we succumb to it is pretty obvious. What we can do to overcome it, is not. I wake up most days full of hope and energy. This morning, I even had a list of resources to research and things to do and was as gung ho as you can be at 5:30 in the morning. I grabbed my coffee (bear with me, I’m getting somewhere), did my 15-20 minutes of meditation, wrote and recited my goals and armed with optimism and a to-do list, I started to tackle my tasks. All of a sudden, this venture I’m creating became overwhelming, bigger than life! There’s so much I need to learn and do before I can even begin! This is going to take an army of geeks, not to mention lawyers, accountants, FedEx drivers. Help! I need an admin! rossycrosseyed2

Calm down, girl, I told myself. You just need to connect the dots one little number at a time. And so I did. I connected them right into Internet Backgammon where I spent about 20 minutes getting the crap beaten out of me because 1) I was totally distracted and 2) the computer plays favorites. I know. It’s in the roll of the dice!

I finally did get back to the tasks at hand. Actually, I got back to thinking about the tasks at hand and realized that a very simple proposition had turned into a massive undertaking. And it hadn’t even left my head yet! Has this ever happened to you? It happens to me a lot. Ideas just grow out of proportion and when there’s no way to contain them, I just let them go. That makes sense sometimes, but not others. I guess the real wisdom is in keeping things simple. The best ideas are always the simpler ones; the ones you go “Now why I didn’t I think of that?” because duh, it was obvious. So, I’ve decided to go back to the drawing board and continue my research into the next great big simple idea that will make the world go Duh!!!. I also thought I’d give you a break from my very long-winded posts.

What about you? Do you have any overwhelming stories to share? I’d love to hear them. Come on, don’t be shy!

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It’s been proven: Shopping is actually good for you!

April 14, 2009

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Who doesn’t love to shop. Well, I do know a few people who don’t like going to the mall, but they’re not  a lot of fun, so we won’t talk about them. For those of us “normal” folk, here’s why we love shopping: because mentally and physically SHOPPING MAKES US FEEL GOOD! In his article “How Manolos Can Save Your Life”  http://www.womenshealthmag.com/life/benefits-of-shopping?layout=print, Dan Tynan, who’d prefer his wife didn’t see what he wrote, says:

In a paper published last year, researchers at the UK’s Brunel University noted that shopping is associated with increased activity in the left prefrontal cortex, a part of the brain that has been linked to pleasure and positive thinking. In fact, levels of dopamine, a neurotransmitter released during pleasurable experiences including sex, can rise sharply even when you’re merely window shopping. In another study, published in the journal Neuron, researchers at MIT, Carnegie Mellon, and Stanford strapped volunteers to an fMRI machine and showed them photos of products. When shoppers saw something they wanted to buy, a flood of dopamine to the nucleus accumbens–the brain’s reward center– lit up their fMRI images like a dashboard.

 Shopping keeps you younger

And it’s not only about pleasure. Shopping may also help women maintain their mental acuity in old age, says Guy McKhann, M.D., a professor of neurology at Johns Hopkins University and a co-author of Keep Your Brain Young. “People who are doing really well as they get older tend to be mentally engaged, physically active, and socially involved,” he says. “And women are all of those things when they shop.”

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What’s worse: being unemployed or in a job you hate?

April 9, 2009

Now wait! Before you accuse me of being blonde, think about it. Really think about it. A friend of mine just asked me if I could write about him being “deeply depressed in his ever-lasting job”. Let me clarify. He lives in Israel, ergo the ever-lasting job situation. And he works for the airlines: people, complaints, complaints, people. Every now and then something goes right (the plane is on time, the passengers are on time, there’s no terrorist attack, the pilot is not drunk) but nobody seems to notice, except him. Celebrations are few and far between. ·you’re hating it for as long as you show up for work. That could lead to ulcers, heartburn, psoriasis and a pot belly, not to mention hypertension, depression, anxiety (I used to work for a behavioral health company. I should know.) and the need to make like Spiderman and crawl all over the building walls. True or true?

That got me thinking. Really thinking. What’s worse, being unemployed or working at a job you hate? (I know, I asked that already. I’m just trying to make a point).

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Everything’s on sale including luxury

April 7, 2009

 I recently saw a commercial that sent shock waves through my body: Macy’s was advertising their great prices! Excuse me?! Did I miss something? Now, don’t get me wrong: I love Macy’s. It’s actually my favorite store. I used to shop there extensively BR (before the recession). I loved their shoe selection (that’s a duh!), their lingerie and their petite collections. Macy’s loves and understands me, I would say to myself as I wondered the I.N.C. aisles. But, I never, ever, ever considered Macy’s a place where I went for good prices. Granted, they have sales ALL THE TIME, but the land of Dooney & Bourke, Calvin Klein and BCBGMaxAzria is no Walmart. Or at least, they weren’t last time I checked. I can’t say I’ve been in the shopping mood lately. And window shopping has never been my thing. I mean, what’s the point? When I visit the stores, it’s because I want to buy something — sometimes, everything, especially at Macy’s. I can’t imagine just looking and not taking anything home. Doesn’t that cause physical damage to, say, your left prefrontal cortex? I know I would be one angry little woman (I’m aware that there are other names out there for this condition, but I prefer to keep a clean blog), if all I could do is look and not buy. Talk about self-denial!

The fact that this mega mid- to high-end chain has to advertise low prices is truly a sign of the times. This crappy economy is not just affecting the little people (and I don’t necessarily mean petites here), but everyone in general. I guess Maddoff did more damage than I thought. He not only brought down some of the country’s wealthiest families, baseball and football team owners, even small countries, but he seems to have done a number on our retail establishment as well. I wonder, when all is said and done, what our shopping options will be. Maybe Nordstrom will partner with Target or Bloomingdales will buy TJ Maxx. These are fascinating times. Nothing, it seems, will ever be the same. And, yes, it is scary, but at least, it’s not boring. And maybe, just maybe, Dun & Bradstreet will have its own handbag collection. And their prices will fluctuate according to customer demand.

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All I want is all there is and then some redux

April 3, 2009

As promised, here’s my money song: Eartha Kitt’s “All I want is all there is and then some“. A great way to end the non-work week, wouldn’t you agree?

Happy intransition, everyone! And keep singing!

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Ever been scammed by a landlord or property manager?

April 1, 2009

If you have, believe me, I feel your pain. This morning I took Arbor Property Management, Inc of Garden Grove or Westminster or some such Southern California city (They don’t have a physical address. May I say more?) to small claims court over our deposit. Not only did we never receive it — and it’s been oh, four months since we moved out — but now they’re claiming deductions of $1300 for items which the judge argued could be considered “wear and tear” and a few other fees she thought verged on “usury”. Well, at the end of our lengthy dispute, she promised to think about the case and mail us her decision, which I welcome.

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